SPOKANE, Wash. – Court documents have shed light on the custody battle between Travis and Whitney Decker, revealing a history of “instability and emotional challenges”.
The , initially agreeing on a parenting plan that split responsibilities for their three children amicably.
However, things changed in September 2024, when Whitney filed for a proposal to modify the plan.
“Since our separation it has become increasingly clear that Travis has been struggling to maintain stability in his life, particularly with securing a consistent place to live and establishing a predictable schedule. This lack of stability has unfortunately had a negative impact on our children,” Whitney stated in court documents.
She highlighted Travis’s emotional and mental health issues.
“ and upon separation from the Army and transition into the reserves, his borderline personality disorder and narcissism became rampant,” Whitney said.
The revised parenting plan in 2024 cited issues of neglect and emotional and physical problems on Travis’s part.
As a result, the court ordered Travis to undergo evaluation for ‘anger management/domestic violence’ by a psychiatrist in Spokane and to attend counseling sessions twice a month.
The plan was also adjusted to prohibit overnight stays for the children with Travis due to his housing instability.
Whitney detailed incidents that contributed to the separation, including a situation on Aug. 15, 2024, when Travis allegedly found one of their daughters passed out with a bathrobe tied around her neck and failed to inform Whitney.
Another incident on Dec. 19, 2024, involved one of the daughters injuring her fingers, with Travis reportedly absent and unresponsive to the children.
Despite the challenges, Whitney expressed a desire to maintain Travis’s relationship with their daughters in court documents.
“Travis has made huge sacrifices to serve our country and loves his girls very much but he has got to get better for our girls,” she said. “I do not want to keep Travis from the girls at all. To the contrary I have bent over backwards to facilitate that relationship.”
On Sept. 27, 2024, a judge found adequate cause to modify the parenting plan.
Travis disagreed, arguing in court that that it was important that his children understand the reality of how the world works and they could learn from his current condition. However, the court did not agree.
Travis was granted visitation every other weekend on Friday evenings, Saturday and Sunday during restricted time periods.
